Friday, June 12, 2009


It's been over 4 years since my husband died of leukemia. It wasn't an easy time as he went through a lot of procedures, radiation and chemo at the Cleveland Clinic. He had the best doctors but nothing seemed to work. The one good thing is that he accepted Christ into his life just 17 days before he died. This is dedicated to him. We had our ups and downs like every married couple but he was the love of my life and he will be my last.
We met years before when my children were only 6 and 10. They grew up with him as a father figure. He was a police officer and retired at 48. He still worked part time for the city. We met through me being a nurse in the ER at the hospital in the city were he worked. I was a divorced, single Mom and he was the strong type of personality that could take care of any problem. We fell deeply in love and that was that. My son especially grew close to him as they had the same interests; golfing and fishing. His death was extremely hard on my son Carl. They have named their son after Jack. His parents who had passed had a home on Anna Maria Is, FL. There is an album on my other website.
Click on "Remembering Anna Maria" and it has a lot of photos.
My father had died a few years before and then my Mom just a year before. Jack's death didn't affect me hard for awhile and then it slowly crept in. I was alone, even though I have children and a wonderful sister and brother-in-law. In the house in the evening, I'm still very much alone.


  1. You were so very lucky to have found each other. Thank you for sharing this most personal story with us Shirley. I hope you feel a little less alone in our community of bloggers. No replacement of course but people who listen.

  2. Dearest Shirley, Thanks for the kind comment on my blog. And welcome to the blogging world! I'm a newbie too, and had no idea how many wonderful, nice people I'd meet around the country and even the world. I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my dear dad 10 years ago very unexpectedly, he was only 59. I still miss him so. I hope you find comfort in the friends and family around you and with the new blogging friends you are sure to meet. Find peace and comfort that your beloved husband came to know Christ in his last hours. What a grace! Remember what Christ said to the good thief, Today you will be with me in paradise. Praise God for his mercy! You might want to visit Mona at
    I think you'll find comfort in each other. God bless you and your day!

  3. Hello Shirley...I stopped by for several reasons..first of course to meet you and to welcome you to blogging. I have enjoyed it so much. I am sure by now you have read my profile and know at least a bit about me.

    I have not been divorced, but I have still had great loss.
    I have had a wonderful time since I began blogging...but I have also ran into a problem, but only one. It was devastating but quickly passed after a couple of weeks which were down right scary.

    The woman went away but it was shocking and an eye opener. I take folks at face value..and this experience reminded me that by blogging, we really do put ourselves out there..and there may be some who are not kind.

    That being said... :) I am just delighted with the other 99.9% of the other beautiful women. I am amazed and overjoyed at the beauty I have found in people. The kindness and even the openess. After my experience I am much more didn't ruin things for me..I made myself stay and continue and it has been worth it. I am beginning to relax and enjoy once again and I am having the time of my life. :)

    I hope you visit is so nice to meet you! I hope we will become wonderful friends..
    ~smiles and love~

  4. Shirley ~ you may not have anyone physically at home with you, but you are never alone. You were blessed to have such a wonderful husband & partner in life.

    You will find many new friends in blog-ville that are there for you always, despite your situation(s). It is a wonderful world.

    Now back to the 'you are never alone' statement ... you are blessed to have the Lord in you're life constantly ... may He fill your life with comfort & joys ... He will hold your hand & heart when you need Him ... He has brought you to all of us, you new constant companions.

    TTFN ~Marydon

  5. I am just so grateful and humbled by the bloggers that have written me. I thank you all. I know this will be a good experience for me. I look forward to joining some of these "parties" and to talk about things in my life. It certainly is good therapy isn't it!!!

  6. I wrote you a comment about Jack when I was at your house but I guess I wasn't signed in ;-) Anyway I said I was sitting at your laptop with tears in my eyes. We had so my good times in FL and at your house. I really miss Jack and think of him often. He was one of those guy's that once you meet him you will NEVER forget him!!


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